Be kind to yourself
We often compare ourselves to other people and it is easy to dwell on our failings and criticise ourselves. But this clearly makes it much harder for us to be happy. It sounds simple but learning to accept ourselves and being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong has been shown to increase our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our wellbeing. It also helps our levels of tolerance for other people and celebrates our differences.
No-one’s perfect. But so often we compare our insides to other people’s outsides. Dwelling on our flaws – what we’re not rather than what we’ve got – makes it much harder to be happy.
Learning to accept ourselves, warts and all, and being kinder to ourselves when things go wrong, increases our enjoyment of life, our resilience and our well-being. It also helps us accept others as they are
Dr Kristin Neff is one of the world’s leading experts on self-compassion. She advocates for us to treat ourselves as we would treat a good friend. By practising self-compassion we can turn the enemies in our head into friends:
“People who are compassionate to themselves are much more likely to be happy, resilient, optimistic and motivated to change themselves and their lives for the better. When our inner voice plays the role of a supportive friend (not a continual critic), then when we notice some personal failing, we feel safe and accepted enough to see ourselves clearly and make the changes needed to be healthier and happier” Dr Kristin Neff.
Try this video below from Action for Happiness to learn some techniques that will help you be kind to yourself